In a relationship arguments happen and you’re lying if you say you don’t argue with your significant other because you do. You may not have huge fall outs often, but little squabbles and digs at each other do occur because we love one another and we annoy the living daylights out of each other at the same time.
It’s one of those difficult parts of being an adult. Next time you have a bit of falling out with your other half try to think of these seven steps to prevent that disagreement from becoming a fully blown argument.
1. A bark can feel like a bite. Not mean to sound nasty, but your comment did anyways? Remember that not everybody thinks and acts the same way as you and others can be more sensitive to words. Be careful with how you word sentences and try to avoid further upset by picking a more soothing way to converse rather than coming over as snappy and aggressive.
2. Think about your words/actions and their repercussions on others. It may be sticks and stones, but in fact words do harm people more than they let on. Don’t get too caught up in the moment and react from a hot head, feelings are in the risk of being hurt.
3. Love always wins so kiss and make up.
4. See it as a self-soothing exercise and learn from it. Think you didn’t handle it well? Have a good think of how you can handle that situation in the future and make changes from what you have experienced. If any good can be taken from a falling out, it can be a one which will change the future for the better.
5. Stay open on other opinions – even if you don’t agree. Sometimes you need to remember that just because what you think you believe is right, doesn’t mean than everybody else is going to agree with you. Don’t shoot down when an opposite opinion comes your way but listen and consider it. You won’t like it if the shoe is on the other foot and you get shot down for your opinion.
6. Move forward and take the positives from it. Maybe that falling out will bring you both closer together, an argument clears the air so which you can move forward now it’s all out in the open.
7. If you’re in the wrong apologise and accept you’re in the wrong. We can all be a little too stubborn for our own good and accepting you’re wrong when you are will do you good in the future. No need to d’well on the bad any longer than what is deemed necessary. Apologise and move ahead.